Article by Rumbie Chakanza in Harare, Zimbabwe
Domestic violence affects millions globally, yet male victims remain hidden, comprising 30% of cases. This silence perpetuates stigma, shame and suffering.
Shattering the Stigma
Men bravely share devastating experiences:
1. Tanya’s Nightmare: Tanya, 50, engineer, suffered knife attacks and bruises from his wife after financially supporting his mother. She threatened false rape accusations.
2. Dr. Roy’s Humiliation: Dr. Roy’s ex-partner brought their 10-month-old baby to his workplace, abandoning the child and vandalizing his office.
3. Starvation and Control: A 32-year-old husband faced starvation, locking out until providing financially.
“I felt trapped, ashamed, powerless,” shares John, 35, entrepreneur. “Society demands strength, silence. Fear silenced me.”
Statistical Reality
Studies reveal:
1. 1 in 7 men face severe physical violence.
2. 40% of domestic violence victims are male.
3. 75% of male victims remain silent.
Barriers to Reporting
Men confront:
1. Stigma: Fear ridicule, emasculation.
2. Shame: Perceived weakness.
3. Lack support: Insufficient resources.
4. Societal expectations: Traditional masculinity norms.
Invisible Scars
Men endure:
1. Name-calling (“zigwara,” “zidununu”).
2. Public shaming.
3. Ego destruction.
Expert Insights
“Male victims face unique challenges,” says Dr. Margaret Mwamba, psychologist. “Societal norms perpetuate silence. We must encourage openness, support.”
“Non-gendered language, inclusive support services and public awareness campaigns are crucial,” adds Advocate Tatenda Tavenga.
Breaking Free
John found solace in support groups. “Sharing freed me.”
Time for Change
Recognize male victims’ struggles:
1. Listen without judgment.
2. Provide inclusive support.
3. Challenge norms.
Collective awareness breaks silence, empowers victims and fosters equality.
